Parenting advice is not hard to come by—often times, people will dish it out without even being asked in the first place. But according to a recent Facebook post by a bartender named Kara Coley, when a Mississippi mom didn’t know where else to turn, she went to a pretty unusual source.
Coley posted on her Facebook about a call she received from a random woman while she was working at Sipps, a gay bar in Gulfport, Mississippi. “Is this a gay bar?” the woman asked.
“Well, we are an everybody bar, but yes, mostly gay,” she said in response.
The woman then asked if Coley was gay (which we think is super personal for a random phone call, don’t you think?). Coley said she was.
My daughter came out as trans, and it saved my marriageIf that question wasn’t personal enough, the woman’s next question took things to the next level: “What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out?”
Confused, Coley could only say, “Ummm…”
At that point, the woman revealed to Coley the reason for her very out-of-the-blue questions: Her son had just come out to her and she had no idea how to respond appropriately. “I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head,” she explained.
After double checking that the mom wanted to support her son (to which the mom said, “Well, umm, yes, if that’s what he wants”), Coley’s response could not have been more perfect. “You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him!” she said. “I think everything will be OK from there.” See Coley’s full post below:
Although her questions were, on the surface, not appropriate to ask a stranger, we think it’s sweet that this mom turned to the only source she could think of when she needed advice on how to support her son. Asking for help can be difficult, so we applaud this mom for seeking out ways to respond to her son in a supportive and loving way.
That said, if you’re the parent of an LGBTQ child who needs support, there’s no need to turn to your local gay bar. You can find plenty of resources through the PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) website.