From balloons and confetti to literal live alligators, a decade of social media-obsessed parents-to-be have taken gender reveal parties to ever-new and wilder heights. And while the trend is more popular than ever, the woman credited with inventing it has shared an unexpected reveal of her own: she has major regrets.
In a July 25 post that went viral on Facebook, Los Angeles blogger Jenna Karvunidis, who had the first viral gender reveal party back in 2008, admitted that she has mixed feelings about parents placing so much emphasis on pink vs blue—especially since her now-10-year-old daughter, whose cake revealed pink icing all those years ago, currently prefers to wear suits.
“Who cares what gender the baby is? I did at the time because we didn’t live in 2019 and didn’t know what we know now – that assigning focus on gender at birth leaves out so much of their potential and talents that have nothing to do with what’s between their legs,” she wrote.
We couldn’t agree more! Check out her full post below:
A weird thing came up on Twitter, so I figured I'd share here. Someone remembered it was me who "invented" the gender…
“Finally, I had a baby that stuck long enough to know anything about her, and the first thing we learn is the gender of the baby. The party was more celebrating the milestone of her coming birth more than trying to saddle any identity onto the child,” she explains.
But a decade has passed since she feted her future daughter with a pink cake, and the irony of the tween’s non-conforming preferences—which she made clear early on—isn’t lost on her mom.
Why are new parents still so obsessed with gender?“It started almost immediately after she was born. I made a blue and yellow nursery, not a pink one,” says the blogger. “For her first birthday, I put a black suit coat on her. You know what your kid is gravitating towards and I knew the whole pink thing wasn’t in the cards.”
So it’s no wonder Karvunidis credits her firstborn with changing her outlook on the reveal parties, adding that people have taken the trend way too far at the expense of others. “Gender reveals are really offensive to nonbinary and transgender people. When we emphasize gender as the first thing to celebrate about babies, [transgender and nonbinary people] are further marginalized.”
We’re glad her outlook has changed because she’s right, it’s 2019 and time to break free of the gender binary. It shouldn’t matter how your child identifies!
Plus, if you really have your heart set on some sort of celebration for your baby on the way, why not make a cute rainbow cake instead?