Follow along as Jennifer Pinarski shares her experiences about giving up her big city job and lifestyle to live in rural Ontario with her husband, while staying home to raise their two young children.
As our family heads into the fourth month of me solo-parenting Isaac and Gillian while my husband is away for work, I’d love to be able to say that it has gotten easier. I’d love to be able to say that I’ve established a routine, that the kids have adjusted to our new lifestyle and that I’ve mastered solo parenting. But I haven’t. I feel just as lost and disorganized as I ever have and, while the children seem to be resilient and managing well, each morning they wake up expecting to see their dad sitting at the breakfast table—and of course, he’s not.
As I’ve mentioned before, solo-parenting is much lonelier than I expected. Part of this, I believe, is due to the fact I spend my days making sure that my children are happy, and by the time they are tucked into bed, I am too tired to make sure that I am happy. I’m learning that self-care is critical—but I’m just not sure how to make it happen. I asked my single and solo mom friends how they stay sane and healthy—here are their top tips:
Give yourself a break
More than one mom told me that I'm being too hard on myself, and they're probably right. Having our house on the real estate market has put extra pressure on me to keep the house tidy which, if you’ve read my blog for awhile, I’d really rather not do. I’ve learned to let a few tasks slide and enlist the help of my kids for age-appropriate chores.
Talk it over
Sweat it out
Take a timeout
Plan and prep
Ask for help
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Are you a solo or single parent who has a self-care tip to share with me? I’d love to hear it! Tweet me @jenpinarski.