Relationships: Are you fighting too much?

You used to laugh all the time. Now it seems like all you ever do is fight. What’s happening to your relationship? Fights have a nasty habit of becoming habituated. The brain lays down neural pathways, and once the way is paved, it becomes well travelled. We form grey-matter grooves, like ruts in a muddy road, and we get stuck. We forget what we’re really fighting about.  

But here’s the thing: Brains are capable of re-shaping. We can form new, better, pathways. The first step is figuring out what we’re fighting about, what we're trying to win and at what cost? Before you and your sparring partner can settle the score, you need to know the answers to those questions. (And the answers are rarely what they seem.)