To all the moms holding it down at home, Ryan Gosling sees you

Behind every parent doing big things out in the world is someone else keeping bums wiped and tantrums tamed at home. And often that someone is a mom, and she’s not usually given nearly enough credit for doing the heavy lifting to give her partner the time and mental space to achieve success outside the home. That’s why we loved the shout-out Ryan Gosling gave “his lady,” actress Eva Mendes, when he won the Golden Globe for Best Actor in a Musical or Comedy.

“You don’t get to be up here without standing on the shoulders of a mountain of people. While I was singing and dancing and playing piano and having one of the best experiences I ever had on a film, my lady was raising our daughter, pregnant with our second and trying to help her brother with his battle with cancer. If she hadn’t have taken all that on so that I could have this experience, there would surely be someone else up here other than me today. So sweetheart, thank you.”

While he spoke, the camera panned to Jessica Chastain and Octavia Spencer as they nodded vigorously in agreement. While Gosling and Mendes no doubt have more resources for help than your average parents, running after a toddler while pregnant, while caring for your dying brother (he passed away earlier this year) still sounds like an awful lot to deal with.

Gosling has already been imagined as your dream feminist boyfriend in memes but we’re thinking the real Ryan Gosling might be just as great as the Hey Girl.

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