The 36-year-old Canadian actor may be baffled by his “Hey Girl” meme status, but Ryan Gosling keeps giving us more reasons to gush over him. In his January cover interview with GQ Magazine, he actually opened up about his family.
He and partner, Eva Mendes, 42, typically keep their relationship and kids very private—they waited a month to announce Amada, their second child and little sister to two-year-old Esmeralda, who was born this past April. Gosling says he loves Eva as a mother and that his life has changed for the better since having kids.
“Your whole life, you hear what it’s like to have kids, and all the clichés are true. I felt I knew that everything would be different, but until you experience that, there’s no way to really know what people mean.”
And how sweet is this:
“I only know what it’s like to have my kids. And in my situation, Eva’s the dream mother, and they’re dream babies, and it’s like a dream that I’m having right now. I’m dreaming it all. So I feel so lucky.”
Do you hear that? It’s the sound of millions of women sighing. Gosling explains that he didn’t anticipate this life for himself, but he’s happy it turned out this way.
“It’s not something I really thought about, or even thought I wanted. I didn’t have a romanticized idea of it…It came about in a very surprising and kind of organic way. There was nothing kind of premeditated about it, you know. It just suddenly was: My life had changed. And thank God it did.”
He explains that being a parent of two kids under the age of two is chaotic, but in a good way.
“There’s a kind of chaos in it that I love. Maybe in my life I sort of put myself in situations that were chaotic, outside of my life. And now I have it at home, and I don’t have to go looking for it. It’s a beautiful chaos that’s…surreal and serene.”
As many of us do, Gosling puts a lot of pressure on himself to be the kind of parent his dream babies deserve: