Bigger Kids

Lying to parents

What can you do when your child lies about eating

By Kathy Lynn
Lying to parents

Q: My eight-year-old daughter has lied about finishing the lunch I send to school with her. She has thrown it away and given it to a friend to take home (the friend’s parents told me). We have denied her TV and games for a weekend, but it doesn’t seem to work and she keeps finding different ways to cover up.

The goal here is to discover why your daughter is not finishing her lunch and why she is lying about it. Removing privileges brings you no closer to the answers.

Rather than focus on the lie, try focusing on the problem. Say, “I notice you’re not eating your lunch. Let’s talk about it.” Then listen to your daughter’s response. Maybe the food you send is so different from the other kids’ lunches that they tease her and she throws it away to avoid the ridicule. Or maybe she doesn’t like the food you send. If so, it would be helpful to have her start to prepare her own lunches; that way, she is sure to like the food she brings to school.

If you sense she has an eating disorder, then you need to talk to your family doctor about getting professional help as soon as possible.

This article was originally published on May 12, 2008

Weekly Newsletter

Keep up with your baby's development, get the latest parenting content and receive special offers from our partners

I understand that I may withdraw my consent at any time.

This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.