You know, romance isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. If I were to make a list of the qualities correlated with successful marriage, romance isn’t at the top — nowhere close. Why? Because our notions of romance have been shaped by Hollywood, and it's time to reframe them. We need to get real.
The successful couples I see in my practice share predictable qualities. Their marriages are marked by pragmatism, personal responsibility and precise communication — qualities typically touted as the antithesis of romance. So, I’m going to boldly make the following proclamation: There are virtues to the unromantic partnership. "Unromance” is the new romance. And what does the “unromance” look like? Let’s break it down.