But finally, after two years of not earning an income, I’ve been able to let the guilt go (sort of).
- Going to work gives you “adult” time, but no one wants to have to go to work. I’d love to be a stay at home dad, especially when they become school aged! – Chris, a father of three and working full-time in Winnipeg
- It took me at least 2 years before I could really stop seeing hubby’s income as “his” money. I felt all the guilt spending anything on myself during that time. My mother-in-law helped me to realize that her son and I were a true TEAM and that it was his work that was technically now paying both our salaries. – Diane, stay-at-home mom to two girls in southern Ontario
- I wouldn’t say I’m happier working. But staying home is the hardest job ever. It’s not that the job itself is hard, but we don’t live in villages anymore and well… that’s hard! Rhonda, full-time working mom to three school-aged kids
- I don’t think I could ever put myself in a situation where I am spending someone else’s money. I wouldn’t like that. There is a certain amount of power in being independent in your financial decisions. – Kim, Manitoban single mom to two school age kids and works full-time in education and healthcare
- I love working and being a single mom. It works for me. There are some days where I wish I could spend more time with my boys because we do seem to be rushing everywhere. I am blessed to have them attend the same school I teach at though, that kind of helps. – Julie, primary school teacher and single mom to two school age boys in Ontario
- I am tired of answering the question “When are you going back to work?” I am not just money and my employment. I am a mother to my two sons right now. I am not a good Mother when I am working away from home — that is a decision I made from experience. – Jessica, stay-at-home mom to two school age boys in rural Ontario
- I am the main income in our family and it is nice to spend $ without guilt, I won’t lie. Robin, working mom to two school age daughters
- I’ve been at home with the boys for 11 years now, and am pretty darn happy. The money, or lack thereof, is definately not easy. – Chrissy, married SAHM to two school age boys
But as they say, money can’t buy happiness. Even though we have the best job in the world, SAHMs get depressed for reasons other than money (OK, I got depressed). Echoing what Rhonda said above, no longer living in villages means not having the support network of other like-minded moms — which often leads to loneliness and ultimately depression.
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