Yesterday I had the good fortune to spend the day with 8,999 Oprah fans, soaking up platitudes and inspirational speakers at Oprah’s Lifeclass: The Tour. Oprah’s first ever stop in Toronto was to tape two episodes of Oprah’s Lifeclass (which airs Monday nights on OWN). Rainbow-dressed fans from all over waited over four hours in line (and spent a considerable amount on tickets) to see television’s unofficial self-help evangelist. I think most of them would agree that it was worth it.
Oprah’s guests included spiritualist Deepak Chopra, motivational speaker Tony Robbins, inspirational author and TV host Iyanla Vanzant and spiritual leader Bishop T.D. Jakes. Each Lifeclass “guest teacher” gave a moving talk to get the audience inspired and pumped up before the show taping, which centred on the topic of forgiveness.
Don’t feel bad if you couldn’t go. I’m here to give you the crib notes from what I learned yesterday (I was scribbling like a crazy person). Here are 5 Oprah-style life changing tips:
1. Got a problem? S-T-O-P.
Iyanla Vanzant gave us this powerful acronym to use at the crossroads of any conflict.
Take a deep breath
Observe yourself (and/or the situation)
Proceed with kindness
2. Have a vision.
Iyanla used an analogy of not realizing she needed glasses to highlight this point. You think you’re seeing 100 percent but you might only be seeing 70 percent, because your eyes will adjust to the deficiency. So we all need a sort of vision check-up, much like we would for our eyes, but for our lives. Are we actually living the life we want? Check-in with yourself and don’t let fear determine your vision.
3. Nurture your vision.
You need to see your vision for your life and yourself, in the way you would if you were pregnant with a baby — you need to protect it and nurture it. 3 ways to nurture your vision:
Ever got what you wanted but getting it didn’t feel like you thought? Did you feel guilty for not enjoying it? Tony Robbins offered his 3-step method to achieving success AND feeling fulfillment:
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that your life could be any different.” Iyanla reminded us that forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. “Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed into the future.” Deepak Chopra stated plainly that if you don’t forgive, if we hold onto the past, hold onto grudges, you’re going to get sick.
Bishop T.D. Jakes preached that “Unforgiveness, left unchecked, becomes the cancer of the soul — it spreads.” He said we hang onto old hurts at the expense of our destiny. So stop waiting for the apology, seeking revenge and imagining different scenarios and “let it go” (which happens to be the title of Bishop Jakes’ new book).