Career: 10 secrets of working parents

Who says you can't have it all? Learn how to keep your family (and boss) happy with these straightforward tips.  

A version of this article appeared in our October 2012 issue with the headline “10 secrets of working parents,” p. 64.

Start looking for child care early. It will be easier to focus on work it you're not worried about your kids. And figure out a backup plan in case of illness — talk to a stay-at-home friend or relative about helping in a pinch.

Set your clocks 10 minutes ahead. That way, you're rushing against a deadline with a few minutes of give.

Colleagues will be happy to hear tales about Junior's latest achievements, but choose your moments. It might be best to wait until someone asks.

Despite best efforts, occasionally you'll arrive decorated with spit up or coffee. You'll be glad to have a change of clothes handy.

Friends and family often want to help but don't know what would be useful. Ask for what you need. Take what's offered. Say thank you.

Anything you can do to ease the morning rush will help — packing lunches, finding your car keys.

Older children can organize their backpacks before bedtime or load the dishwasher.

If you're making a pasta bake, double the recipe and stash one in the freezer.

Even if it's just once a month, or for the first few weeks you're back at work, you'll appreciate not having to spend your nights scrubbing toilets.

It may sound like a paradox, but it's important to get downtime each week. Otherwise, your Saturdays will fill up with groceries, swimming lessons and vacuuming.