By Liza Finlay
Updated Apr 05, 2017Photo: RyanJLane/iStockphoto.com
A vast assemblage of self-help gurus tell us to “live in the present” — and there is wisdom in that. But a lot can be learned by revisiting the past and reimagining the future. Especially when it comes to your relationship.
I recently returned from a family vacation. My husband and I spent hours lounging by a pool, laughing about past blunders and fantasizing about our future together. We came home with fortified bonds and a renewed commitment to our shared life path.
And that’s when it struck me. In the chaos of family life, most of us put our relationships on autopilot. We coast through these busy years of our relationship just coping.
So, “live in the present”? Sure. But when the present is a confused tangle of greasy diaper bags, fossilized snack containers, towering laundry piles and warring iCals, then looking back and looking forward can be just as beneficial.
The following exercises will help you and your spouse reconnect and maybe even set a new course.
Past Perfect
Future Framework
How To Make A Vision Board
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