For example, all I wanted for Mother’s Day this year was to go for a long run by myself. Instead, my husband bought me a pair of chickens and a pair of ducks at the local Feather and Fur Club auction. For my birthday, all I wanted was to go for a long bike ride by myself. Instead, my husband bought me a gift card for Boston Pizza (which is really dinner out with my kids — which is not all that fun). There should have been no second guesses on behalf of my husband. I was very specific about what I wanted. He just thought that I’d like livestock and the goat rodeo that is dining with children to be more fun than exercising by myself.