“Envy is the most stupid of vices, for there is no single advantage to be gained from it,” said author Honore de Balzac. Of course he’s right, yet the green-eyed monster does have lots of couples in its greedy clutches.
Simply put, because we are human. As humans, we are imperfect. And we know it. Most of us are painfully aware of our flaws. Jealousy occurs when a heightened awareness of our (natural) inadequacies lead us to place someone else above us in an imaginary ranking. Those people then become threats.
And what do we do in the face of a perceived threat? We lash out. Jealousy is a coping mechanism. It’s a way of safeguarding our self-esteem, of deflecting attention from own feelings of inadequacy. Someone who expresses envy is really expressing a deep-seated feeling of inferiority in the face of perceived rivals.
Now that we have that straight, here are some strategies to tame the envy beast…
Here's how to manage your own jealousy
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