Money is a hot-button issue for many couples. It, along with sex, tops the list of couples’ concerns. Why?
1. Money isn’t neutral; it’s highly charged. Money has a currency that far exceeds its paper value. It doesn’t just buy basics, it confers power, status, control. It carries a heavy symbolic value. In our culture, money doesn’t just talk, it makes a loaded statement about personal worth.
2. Money is a mystery. Personal finance isn’t taught in most schools, so most of us are frighteningly financially illiterate. Talking to our partners about money is like conversing in a foreign language. Since no one likes to feel stupid, many of us simply choose not to talk about money. We stick our heads in the sand.
3. Money is polarizing. We all approach money differently and it’s very rare to find a couple with harmonious attitudes. Typically one of you is a spender, the other a saver; one is impulsive the other prefers to plan. That’s a recipe for conflict. After all, it’s hard to find the middle ground when the two of you are so far apart.
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