I often feel I am drowning in motherhood. It was really bad when my girls were younger, but it still exists now: When I am home I want to be away. When I am away I want to be home. I am no longer the person I was before having children, but not quite comfortable with whom I have become.
That’s the opening paragraph of actress Felicity Huffman’s iVillage.com blog post, published just today, about her journey toward finding her voice and accepting her limits as mom to Sophia, 11, and Georgia, 9 (with hubby William H. Macy, 61).
Much like her Desperate Housewives character, Lynette Scavo, Felicity often finds herself overwhelmed, “drowning,” in motherhood. It was the worst when her kids were younger, and she was an extremely anxious mom:
Yum! As Felicity explains, though, it all came to a head one day on their way to the Natural History Museum, when her daughters were around 3 and 4 years old. She recalls waking up at 6 a.m. with them after a long week of work and packing an “absurdly large healthy snack,” only to be called “The Grump” by one of the girls on the way there.
So, Felicity called upon her “wise” sister, who had this piece of wisdom, which has helped her, and which I think can benefit us all:
Since then, Felicity says she’s been struggling slowly to find her voice. “But now,” she writes, “I am the first person I consult instead of the last, although I do ask a lot of people for advice.”
Love love love love love love love. Best celebrity blog post I’ve read in a long time. I probably shared too much, but there’s a lot more to read, so CHECKIT!
And tell us: What are your limits as a parent? Are you the type who goes on “endless trips to the museum”? Are you any good at “nighttime parenting”? Do you pretend to be Poobah? Hee!
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