Hey Pharrell, it’s not cool to cop out on diaper duty

Pharrell admitted he doesn't change his triplets' diapers, and I am not Happy about it.

Pharrell Williams is a super-talented guy who blessed us with what is known in our house as “Mommy’s jam.” But I have to say, I’m not “Happy” about what he said on the Today Show the other day. Asked what diaper changes are like at his house with 5-month-old triplets, he first dodged the question with humour. But when pressed, he admitted he doesn’t do diapers. He leaves that all to his wife, Helen Lasichanh.

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“My wife is SEAL Team Six,” he said. “There’s nothing she can’t do. I mean, she carried those three bodies, and she’s just on it all the time. And we do have some amazing people to help us.”

I’m glad they have help and that he gives his wife the props she’s due. But step up and get in there, dude! I think it’s unacceptable for dads to shirk diaper duty in 2017.

There are certain not-always-fun things that only mama can do: breastfeed, labour and delivery, and growing a baby in the first place (and remember: she grew three of them). But when dads can help, they absolutely should. An informal office poll says babies that age go through around six diapers a day. That’s 18 times a day, 126 a week. Dealing with that much baby poop and pee coming at you is indeed a sh*tty job, but it’s gotta be done, and it’s not fair to leave it all to Mom. Also, you’re missing out on earning the badge of honour that comes with changing a truly horrific diaper.

Pharrell, I love you, and know you love your wife. So don’t leave her in the trenches taking poop grenades, ok?

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