Kids health

How to raise a confident kid

Here are eight basic tips for building your child's confidence.

By Lisa Murphy

How to raise a confident kid

How to raise a confident kid

Be assertive

Kids with assertive communication skills will feel better about themselves and have healthier relationships, says Lisa M. Schab, author of Cool, Calm, and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills and a Chicago-area licensed clinical social worker. Here are eight of her basic tips to help kids develop these communication skills and become confident individuals. 

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Discuss issues

Encourage discussion, disagreement and debate at the dinner table and elsewhere to emphasize everyone’s right to share their own opinions. Invite kids with different play styles over, too.

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Make time

Build some free time into your child’s day. “Overscheduled kids may become more passive,” says Montreal child psychologist Julia Daki.

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How to raise a confident kid

Fight mindfully

Fight (respectfully) with your partner or friends. Children need to see healthy conflict — and healthy resolutions — in order to model it themselves.

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Put your child in charge

Put your child in charge of choosing the dinner menu or another family task. (Take turns, so more assertive siblings don’t dominate.)

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Use positive language

Avoid name-calling. Criticize negative actions rather than your child, so they don’t develop poor self-esteem or shy away from self-expression.

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Enrol in confidence-building activities

Consider theatre classes, debate team, karate or another confidence-building activity that your child has expressed interest in.

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Give them chores

Give them chores to do around the house. Responsibilities help children feel capable and mature.

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Be direct

Gently intervene in situations where your child should be justifiably angry and say, “Stand up for yourself.” Role play how to handle it next time.

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This article was originally published on Oct 08, 2014
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