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My daughter bullies me
What to do about your teen's unacceptable behaviour
Q: My daughter can be quite insensitive to the point where I feel that she is bullying me. She has called me “lame” and “stupid.” She usually apologizes, but only after I have threatened to take away a privilege. Is this typical 14-year-old behaviour?
A: No, it’s not typical behaviour, and you should not have to tolerate it. That said, threatening to remove privileges isn’t the answer.
You need to first refuse to allow her (or anyone else) to treat you in that fashion. Tell your daughter that her rude comments are now over. Then, when she calls you a name, simply turn away, leave the room and ignore her.
You also need to work on the relationship. Talk to her about how you feel about her comments. Try to avoid being judgmental. If you can’t get to the bottom of the problem, you may want to consider counselling together.
Teens often think their parents are lame and not very cool, but your daughter is being downright rude and that’s simply not acceptable.
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31jetjet says ....
I am sorry, but did this article suggest that ignoring your child is better than taking away privileges? Are you crazy? My father used to ignore me when he was mad. One of his "Ignoring Jet" punishments went for NINE months. NINE months he did not speak a word to me and we sat next to each other every night at the dinner table. You know how awkward that was growing up like that. Do not EVER ignore your child...that is a sure way to cause resentment and other problems later on. How would YOU feel being ignored...its not nice....taking away a privilege is much more acceptable.
Catherina (not verified) says ....
If my daughter at an older age called me a name...we would sit and have a serious discussion. Ignoring and walking away is not the answer. Something must be going on if this behavior wasn't around from her earlier years. There seems to be a more serious issue behind this and the name calling is a red flag for attention.
Remain calm and talk. She needs to know you still care and know something is going on..and that she can trust you, since you are her mother which comes with unconditional love.