How does one practice attachment parenting in the throes of divorce? Sadly, it looks like Mayim Bialik will be figuring that out.
Mayim at the Breaking Dawn: Part 2 premiere, Nov 12/2012. Photo: Tina Gill/PR Photos
"After much consideration and soul-searching, Michael and I have arrived at the decision to divorce due to 'Irreconcilable Differences,'" Mayim Bialik, 36, announced on her Kveller.com blog last week.
The Big Bang Theory actress/attachment parenting advocate and her soon-to-be-ex-husband, Michael Stone, are divorcing after nine years of marriage and two children, Miles, 7, and Fred, 4.
"Divorce is terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible for children. It is not something we have decided lightly," she writes. "The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision; relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose."
So how does one practice attachment parenting in the throes of divorce?
"The main priority for us now," Mayim explains, "is to make the transition to two loving homes as smooth and painless as possible. Our sons deserve parents committed to their growth and health and that’s what we are focusing on. Our privacy has always been important and is even more so now, and we thank you in advance for respecting it as we negotiate this new terrain."
"We will be ok," she concludes.
I personally have never aligned myself with any particular styles of parenting. I'm kind of a "fly by the seat of my pants" kind of parent: I follow my instincts, talk to my mom, colleagues and friends, and respond to my children's individual needs. But I can see how a specific method can be comforting and give one a welcome sense of certainty and community (with like-minded others).
So I've always admired Mayim's passion for attachment parenting, or what she calls her "hands-on style." And this inevitable challenge to her parenting style must be extremely stressful. I'm sure she'll write a book (and blog) about attachment parenting through divorce, and lots of people will benefit from it.
Though we don't personally know her, let's send her some love....